I’m Sorry For Men Because They Can’t Have Babies – Chimamanda |RN


Nigerian author, Mrs Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

Oluwakemi Abimbola

Celebrated Nigerian author, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, has said that she feels sorry for men because they can’t have the experience of giving birth.

Chimamanda said this during an interview with online entertainment publication, Vulture, where she spoke about how motherhood has affected her writing career.

She said that becoming a mother opened up “a new emotional plane” that has contributed to her art positively.

“My baby happened, and it’s important to talk honestly about this, because having her changed a lot.

“Having a child gets in the way of writing. It does. You can’t own your time the way you used to.

“But the other thing that motherhood does — and I kind of feel sorry for men that they can’t have this — is open up a new emotional plane that can feed your art.”

Chimamanda said she had thought that she would not be a good mother because she was “so dedicated to [her] art” to the point that she used to think she wouldn’t be a good mother.

“I said to myself, I have nephews and nieces who I adore, and I helped raise them, so those will be my childrenThat’s what I thought for a long time, because I felt that I couldn’t be true to both my art and my child.”

However, she said, she changed her mind — or time changed it for her.

When  asked what changed her mind, she said, “Getting older. I like to joke and say that you’re ready [to have a child] when your body isn’t ready, and when your body is ready, you’re not mentally ready.

“I guess you have the best eggs when you’re like 22; but at 22, you don’t even know yourself.

“Then when you’re 38 and know yourself, your eggs are not the best quality. Anyway, we’ll talk about eggs another time.”

Chimamanda has been known to court controversies with her viewpoints. (Punch)

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Having Sex Once A Week Could Help Women Live Longer – Study |RN


Well, if women had a scientific reason for having sex frequently, here it is: According to a new research, having sex at least once a week could slow down the ageing process. Hooray!

A study published in peer reviewed journal, Psychoneuroendocrinology, in March found that women who have regular sex have longer telomeres – the caps on chromosomes that protect the integrity of the DNA.

That’s a good thing. As you age, your telomeres shorten, and the shorter they are, the more likely you are to develop a degenerative disease and die prematurely.

The study analysed 129 women and found that those who had sex at least once a week were likely to have longer telomeres.

This relationship held up even when the researchers took other factors into accounts, such as stress and the quality of a relationship, which suggests that there’s a strong connection between an active sex life and longer telomeres.

Longer telomeres could point to longer life, a slowing down of the ageing process, and a reduced risk of degenerative disease. Which all sounds splendid.

But before you get too excited, it’s important to note that the study was pretty small and that there could be a whole host of other factors coming into play.

Researchers only gathered data on 129 mothers in committed relationships, so there’s currently no evidence of the ‘sex = longer life’ connection for single women having regular sex or women who haven’t had children.

The researchers note that the findings are ‘largely exploratory,’ and state that they can only generalise them to partnered mothers in long-term relationships.

It’s also possible that there’s a ‘self-selection bias’, meaning healthy women with longer telomere length may be more likely to have regular sex, rather than the opposite cause-and-effect relationship.

Basically, a lot more research needs to be done before we can sack medical treatment and bang our way to better health.

But in the meantime, having sex won’t do much harm. Go for it, if you fancy it. (

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Where Would Men Look At A Woman To Show They Like Her – Study Reveals

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Apparently, if someone is looking at this part of your body, they don’t like you THAT way© klublu/Shutterstock Apparently, if someone is looking at this part of your body, they don’t like you THAT way  

There’s apparently a very simple way to tell if someone is into you or not, according to a new study. Researchers at Wellesley College and the University of Kansas did a joint study and found that if a man looks at a woman’s face, they don’t like a woman in a romantic way. When they looked at the chest or hip region, that meant they had hearts in their eyes. And you thought eye contact was the most important thing! The research was intended to figure out how to tell if someone thought a person was “attractive,” so if someone is looking at your face, they might still like you. Just possibly not in a sexual way.

The study gathered 105 heterosexual undergraduate students for subjects and asked them to look at photos of men and women and to answer whether they wanted to be buddies or date a person. The researchers then tracked their eye movements. While the study was peer-reviewed, it’s important to remember that it only looked at heterosexuals college students.

But it certainly is something to think about. The researchers noted that the men looking at a woman’s chest and hips are actually in line with past research that found that men tend to consider a woman’s reproductive abilities when choosing a mate. It’s apparent evolution. It still feels gross, though.

Moreover, the study shows that it really depends on what you’re already looking for in a relationship. Men, across the board, looked at the chest and hips whether or not they were looking for love. Meanwhile, women looked at the head but looked at it longer if they were considering just being friends with a man. They also checked out legs and feet when they just had pure thoughts about a person.

“Research on attraction tends to assume there is a fixed set of characteristics that make a person desirable. This new study shows that what people look for in a prospective relationship partner depends on their relational goals. The same person who makes a highly desirable friend may not make a good mate,” Angela Bahns, the study’s co-author and an assistant professor of psychology at Wellesley, wrote in a statement.

But don’t be totally offended if your crush is checking out your feet or ear lobes and not your chest. Maybe they’re just highly evolved and know that female partners aren’t just for mating.   (Hello Giggles)

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The Disturbing Reason Women’s Clothing Historically Never Had Pockets |RN

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Friend: ‘I love your dress!’

Me: ‘Oh, thanks! It’s got POCKETS’

Women globally: *shriek with excitement*

If there is one thing women can communally agree on, it’s that we love pockets. We cannot get enough of them. Literally. We can’t, and don’t, get enough of them.

It’s not news to any of us that still, in 2017, women’s clothing either completely lacks the potential for a pouch or, even worse, has COUNTERFEIT POCKETS that inspire a millisecond of hope before crushing your dreams when you realise it only has a depth of two centimetres.

But historically, women have always been deprived of pockets. And the reason why is disturbing.

In a piece on Racked, journalist Chelsea Summers puts it most simply when she writes, “the fewer women could carry, the less freedom they had”.

Think about that for a second.

Before the seventeenth century, both men and women’s clothing wasn’t conducive to pockets, and both genders would have to add purses or bags to their attire. But towards the eighteenth century, men’s clothing all of a sudden got pockets. Women, of course, were left behind.

“Take away pockets happily hidden under garments,” writes Summers, “and you limit women’s ability to navigate public spaces, to carry seditious (or merely amorous) writing, or to travel unaccompanied”.

In the mid to late 1800s, as women were fighting for liberation, pockets were introduced to clothing. Pockets represented independence – as did the pants women started to wear. Post war, however, pockets went out of fashion, in an effort to make women’s silhouettes ‘thinner’ and more feminine, whatever that means.

Throughout history, women have had a complex relationship with pockets. Even now, countless articles have been written lamenting the fact that women’s clothes rarely have pockets large enough to fit an iPhone – a piece of property almost every person needs to carry.

No pockets also mean women need to invest in clutches and handbags – a strategy that earns the fashion industry more and more money.

So when you do find that dress or skirt or pants that have excellent pockets, be reminded there’s something inherently political about them. Ladies – our obsession with pockets could not be more warranted.  (Mamamia)

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How Ageing Affect A Woman Down There |The Republican News


The vagina is an interesting part of the female body, not just because men can die to have a go at it, but also because it’s an organ that assumes a life of its own as a woman progresses in age, from birth t0 death.

Clinical Professor of Obstetrics and Gynaecology at the Ichan School of Medicine at Mount Sinai in New York, Dr Alyssa Dweck, says just like the male sex organ, the vagina also changes as a woman ages.

The changes are absolutely normal, she assures.

Naturally, vaginas differ. Individual body’s responses to natural phenomena such as puberty, pregnancies and menopause differ also. So, how does the vagina fare through the ages? Here…

When you are in your 30s…

  • Dweck says if you use birth control pills, by the time you enter your 30s, you may experience some dryness, probably because the pills prevent ovulation, hence disallowing you to have natural lubrication whenever you are ovulating.
  • During pregnancy, your vagina may develop varicose veins. The weight of the baby in the womb is mainly responsible for this and it will clear after delivery.
  • A healthy vulva is bright red, but this colour may assume a dark hue due to the hormones that your body releases during pregnancy.
  • Depending on how the labour goes at child delivery, muscle and nerve damage can occur if the person taking your delivery isn’t skilled enough. So, always patronise good hospitals.

As you enter 40s

  • If you were fond of assaulting your pubic region by shaving off your pubic hairs all the time, now that you are in your 40s, you may notice unusual pigmentation in that area.
  • Because oestrogen is getting shorter in supply because of your age, the hair may naturally start thinning out.
  • You are perimenopausal now, so, you may start losing elasticity down there, and dryness is a lot more pronounced.

In your 50s

  • By now, the oestrogen begins to diminish more rapidly, causing you to experience thinner, less elastic, drier vulva and vagina tissue.
  • Did you like sex in your 20s and 30s? Now you may start wondering how you survived it all, what with the fact that sexual encounters can now feel as if someone rubs sandpaper on your vagina wall or cause immense irritation.
  • Your vulva steadily loses fat and collagen, making your vagina to shrink.
  • The pH balance changes drastically, as the acidity of the vagina quickly sends the good bacteria packing, making you be susceptible to infections.
  • The vagina becomes less flexible at this age, and tears are a lot more common during sex if you are not well lubricated.

In your 60s

  • Menopause is fully here.
  • Hot flashes and night sweats are regular companions and you need to work round them.
  • The connective tissues holding the uterus, cervix, or even the bowels become loose, making those body parts to droop.
  • In severe cases, those body parts may actually protrude out of the vagina, necessitating repair surgery.

The bottom line: If you are worried about changes to your body as you age, see the doctor.

Adapted from Prevention

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Experts Stunned As Women Rush For Designer Vaginas | The Republican News

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A rush of women going under the knife for designer genitals has taken even plastic surgeons by surprise and divided medical professionals on the ethics and benefits of “labiaplasty”.

In 2015, more than 95,000 women worldwide underwent the procedure, according to data from the International Society of Aesthetic Plastic Surgery (ISAPS).

Most often, labiaplasty involves trimming back the inner “lips” or labia minora flanking the vaginal opening, in a procedure that is also known as nymphoplasty.

It was the 19th-most popular surgical procedure in 2015, followed by “vaginal rejuvenation” — usually tightening of the vaginal canal — in 22nd place with just over 50,000 procedures.

“I trained in the ’80s and if you had told me that you could imagine that this is happening know, I would think you were crazy,” Renato Saltz, a plastic surgeon from Utah and ISAPS president told AFP.

In the United States alone, 2015 saw nearly 9,000 labiaplasties done — a 16 percent increase from the previous year, according to the American Society for Aesthetic Plastic Surgery (ASAPS).

Older data is not available — growth in the sector has been explosive in the past few years.

“Women have become much more concerned about the appearance of their genitalia,” ASAPS board member and New York plastic surgeon Nolan Karp told AFP.

Why? The internet.

“How many nude women, before the internet, would a woman see in her lifetime?” he asked. “Not many, you know, very carefully looking at… genitals.”

People today, he added, “understand what is pretty, what is normal, what looks good, what doesn’t look good.”

Much of what men and women see, however, does not in any way resemble the variety of shapes and sizes in which the female genitalia exist.

– The ‘Barbie look’ –

“It’s very concerning,” said Dorothy Shaw, former head of the Society of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists of Canada (SOGC), referring to the “standard” being pursued.

Designer vulva resemble those of a young girl.

“They have no hair and they’re very flat, so you just see sort of a slit,” Shaw explained.

In reality, “it’s not as though the majority would look like a young girl. They don’t.”

A study published in 2005, found “far greater diversity” in genital shape and size than had ever been documented in scientific literature.

In the 50 women studied, labia minora length varied from two to 10 centimetres (0.8-3.9 inches), and width from 0.7 to five centimetres.

Given the variety, the authors said, it was “surprising that surgeons feel confident that surgery has the potential to achieve a ‘normal’ female genital appearance.”

Yet, the fad has taken root like many others before it.

While women can suffer real discomfort from protruding inner labia chafing, many use it as an excuse, the experts said.

“We know that in about 40 percent of cases when women ask for a nymphoplasty to relieve pain… they lie,” gynaecologist and plastic surgeon Nicolas Berreni told AFP.

“What they really want is the ‘Barbie’ look. On Barbie, you don’t see the inner labia,” he said on the sidelines of the IMCAS aesthetic congress in Paris.

– Chronic pain –

It’s not just a question of personal taste — there are health risks too.

“I have colleagues who see women who have chronic vulvar pain” after labiaplasty and other cosmetic procedures, said Shaw, a retired gynaecologist.

“Any time you cut off a piece of tissue, there’s a chance of bleeding, of infection and then subsequently of scarring,” she explained.

“When you get scarring… you have a risk of catching nerve endings in that scar tissue which will then cause pain or discomfort going forward.”

Shaw expressed particular concern about teenagers having labiaplasty before their physical development is complete.

“The inner lips in normal development become much more prominent (in adolescence), and as the outer lips grow, that changes,” she explained.

“We need a way to help particularly young women understand that their bodies are still developing, they may not look like that in a few years, and that they may be harming themselves in a way that could be permanent.”

Shaw helped develop guidelines for female genital cosmetic surgery for the SOGC.

The document stresses there is little evidence of surgery improving either sexual satisfaction or self image.

And it warns such procedures must “not contravene laws regarding female genital mutilation.”

FGM involves the removal of the clitoris and labia, sometimes of very young girls against their will, in a misguided effort to reduce libido and keep women “chaste”.

It is often performed in the name of religion, and is controversial in countries trying to save girls and women from genital mutilation — some of the same countries where labiaplasty is becoming a fashion statement.


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