Boring, unsociable and potentially a little bit weird – these are some of the common stereotypes surrounding people who like to be alone.
There are also negative stereotypes about singletons; there’s a prevailing idea that there must just be something a little bit, well, off.
But new studies have found that people who like being alone, and enjoy being single, can actually be more outgoing and confident than those who are most comfortable in the company of others, according to Psychology Today.
Researchers measured participants’ key personality characteristics – neurotic, open, extroverted, agreeable and conscientious – against either their desire to be alone or their fear of being single.
The studies of people unafraid to be single were also measured on their relationship-contingent self-esteem, their need to belong, sensitivity to rejection, how easily their feelings are hurt, loneliness and depression.
The studies found that people who like spending time alone, and who are unafraid to be single, are especially unlikely to be neurotic; they are not tense, moody or prone to worrying.
They are also more likely to be open-minded and extroverted, going against common stereotypes.
However, perhaps obviously, the ‘loners’ were less likely to be sociable; although you’d think to be extroverted and sociable would go hand in hand, but evidently not.
They also found that people – both single and currently in relationships – who quite enjoy being single are less likely to be lonely or depressed.
So perhaps it’s time to ditch our long-held assumptions; let’s embrace the loner life. (New Country Living UK)