Nigeria Drops On World’s Happiest List, As Depression, Suicide, Violence Rise

In September 2016, Saturday PUNCH reported the onset of ’harvest of suicides’ in Nigeria, citing experts’ view on the psycho-social and economic downturn which have prepared the ground for such likelihood. In the sequel, KUNLE FALAYI writes on the World’s Happiness list and what it means for Nigeria

On Monday, March 20, 2017, as the world celebrated the International Day of Happiness, death, depression and economic hardship dominated social media discussions in Nigeria.

Many Nigerians were jolted awake by the apparent suicide of 35-year-old doctor, Allwell Orji, who was said to have stopped his car on the Third Mainland Bridge in Lagos and jumped into the lagoon.

As search for his body continued in the lagoon, discussions on depression, its causes and results intensified, bringing to the fore a topic that has received little concern over the years.

The following tweets are just few of the thousands which joined the conversation in the wake of the Orji’s suicide action:

“There’s serious depression in Nigeria, two days ago, it was Third Mainland Bridge, now it’s Mile 2.  Please! Be on the watch for close ones.” – Iwuagwu Kelechi.

“Wow. The man who committed suicide on Third Mainland Bridge today was a medical doctor. Nigeria needs to pay more attention to depression.” – Isima Odeh.

“Depression is very real in Nigeria. ‘It is well’ does not make it go away. People are drowning in their own thoughts of power/helplessness.” – Olu Yomi Ososanya.

“We are finally waking up to the reality that depression is rising in Nigeria. It’s better for us.” – Oma Akatugba

 Just two years ago, in 2015, Nigeria was 78th happiest nation on the World Happiness Report. It was 4th in Africa but plummeted fast after that.

On Monday, as if reaffirming the atmosphere of depression, which Nigerians were talking about, the United Nations released its World Happiness Report for 2017, putting the country at number 95 behind African countries like Somalia (no. 93), Morocco (no. 84), Libya (no. 68), Mauritius (no. 64) and Algeria (no. 53).

Atmosphere of gloom

Despite the gloomy statistics over the general wellbeing of the citizens, Nigeria stands as the 26th largest economy in the world with a GDP of $415bn, according to the International Monetary Fund.

Yet, Forbes describes Nigeria as “the best of the worst”, ranking the country 20th out of the 20 saddest countries in the world.

To the outside world, all these are mere numbers. But to Nigerians, the reality presents itself in the rate of suicides, murders, violent attacks, kidnappings and general atmosphere of gloom.

On the streets, the situation is felt in more immediate terms like increasing rates of road rages, street fights and petty thefts.

All these are symptomatic of a failure of system, lack of psycho-social support system and economic stress, Consultant psychologist, Prof. Olanrewaju Adebayo, said.

The don said that as the ability of people to cope with these various “stressors” reduces, the negative reactions mentioned above become a reality.

In Nigeria, many socio-economic problems drive people to the edge.

On Monday, as Dr. Orji was jumping into the lagoon in an apparent suicide on the Third Mainland Bridge, another victim, a woman, identified as Emerald, was doing the same at another end of the lagoon in Maza-maza, several kilometres away.

Fortunately, the middle-aged woman, who was said to have climbed the rails of the Maza-maza bridge and made her jump, was spotted by passers-by, who immediately rescued her before she could drown.

Again, on Friday, news broke that another woman, Taiwo Momoh, had been rescued on the Third Mainland Bridge as she attempted to jump into the lagoon in a suicide attempt.

On Tuesday, during the search for the body of Dr. Orji, the marine command of the Nigeria Police found another body, which was initially mistaken for the body of the doctor.

Some said this could be another victim of suicide or one of the country’s senseless killings, even though the police said identification had not been made while cause of death is yet unknown.

The day before Dr. Orji’s suicide, a final year student of the Ladoke Akintola University of Technology, Ogbomoso, Adesoji Adediran, hanged himself in his room.

Again, like most of the suicide cases reported in recent times, no one noticed he was suicidal. His roommates who were out studying overnight only returned the following morning to find his body dangling from the roof.

Exactly one month before the suicide of Dr. Orji, a young man climbed the Jakande pedestrian bridge in Lekki, Lagos, threatening to jump to his death.

For hours, residents and police pleaded with him before he was successfully talked down. It is unclear what happened to him thereafter.

These cases have re-focused attention on the issue of depression in Nigeria over the last few days.

In Nigeria, there is not accurate data on suicide as stakeholders believe that due to the stigma that comes with  suicide, many families never report it.

Unfortunately, there is little or no coordinated support for depression victims in Nigeria.

To address this issue, a Lagos-based documentary photographer, Oladimeji Coker, recently started a project that would help offer help offer a microcosm of communal support for depression victims.

On his website, he called for volunteers who could offer any form of support, be it in treatment or social support.

Coker explained that through his interaction with a medical professor, he learnt that  the loss of the social support offered by culture may lead to depression

He said, “The most important part of the African culture is the communal relationship. In the traditional Yoruba communities, one might be a stranger in a community but everybody would still try to offer their support to such person. That alone would have been away to fight depression in those days.

“I realised that a lot of people battling depression in Nigeria have been doing it on their own for too long. It may not work. Sadly if victims of depression are left to fight the battle on their own, we would continue to have more suicide. What this project is doing is to bring a community approach into the issue.”

Coker also explained that one of the problem the Nigerian government must address is the high cost of psychiatric treatments.

In a similar step, few days ago, the Lagos University Teaching Hospital, initiated the Suicide Prevention Service Centre. The Coordinator of the centre, Dr. Raphael Ogbolu, said it has now become necessary to start the service immediate in the light of the increasing number of suicides in the country.

But Professor Olatunji Aina of the Department of Psychiatry, University of Lagos, said Nigerians must be mindful of the fact that depression is not the only cause of suicide.

According to him, suicide could be triggered by social and economic problems or even substance abuse.

Aina said, “But depression as we know it in the medical field is still the major cause of suicide even though it is not the only cause.

“Depression is one of the major psychiatric problems all over the world not just in Nigeria. In fact, it is one of the leading causes of morbidity.

“Because it is not scientifically documented in Nigeria does not mean it is not a major problem here already. From the time ab initio, there has been a problem describing what depression is.

“Virtually all the local languages in Africa do not have specific words for depression.”

According to the don, the lack of an ethnic distinction of depression is a major reason why the problem has never been taken seriously in this part of the world.

“Under-recognition of the problem is one of the reasons depression is a major issue in health care. When someone with depression comes to the hospital, sometimes, they don’t present the symptoms we see among whites. They present bodily symptoms that mask the actual symptoms of depression. It can only take an experienced doctor to make a right diagnosis,” he said.

For  Aina, suicide itself is not being treated like a problem that requires psycho-social support in the country.

He refers to the fact that Nigeria still treats attempted suicide as a criminal matter rather than a problem that requires a psychiatric help.

A country in ‘unofficial depression’

Beyond the medical understanding of depression, a sociologist, Dr. Jibril Adeniyi, explained that the increasing rates of social malaise in the country is enough to put the country in an “unofficial depression”.

According to him, it does not matter what the GDP says if the quality of life of a larger percentage of the people does not reflect the total monetary value of goods and services produced in the country.

To him, signs of the times like suicides, increasing murder cases, killings for ritual, violence/killings in family circles, sale of children, street violence, are to him enough reason to say Nigeria is in an “unofficial depression.” According to him, all these problems have a direct link to the economic downturn in the country.

Adeniyi said, “When there is economic downturn, systems fail and people become more concerned about self than others.

“This in turn has impacts on the lives of people who need psycho-social support. Then, suicide increases, people steal more and rob others. Families that cannot cope treat their children like animals and sometimes kill them out of anger. Husbands kill wives and vice versa.

“The social problems only need to be peeled back beyond the surface, and you would realise how they funnel down to the issue of economic hardship.

“Even though economists may not agree that Nigeria is in a depression yet,  how bad do things have to be before we know we have gone beyond recession?”

Negative behaviour in an ‘unhappy nation’

Since the publication of the first WHR in 2012, the UN said it has become evident that “happiness is less evident in Africa than in any other region of the world.”

In Nigeria, experts say the “unhappiness” is what manifests in negative behaviour such as murders, violence and socially repulsive actions.

In December, a housewife in Ikorodu area of Lagos, Christiana Odo, shocked her neighbours when she stabbed her husband, Rominus, to death for failing to provide money for the family during the Christmas celebration.

In February, it was the other way round, a mother of three, Sherifat Bello, was killed and dismembered by her 36-year-old husband, Sakiru, in Lagos.

Two weeks ago, a barman, Precious Victor, stabbed his employer while trying to extort N63,000 from his boss, Kayode Oso, an Information and Communications Technology consultant in Ikeja, Lagos.

Few months ago, a 63-year-old man, Korede Odubela, was arrested in Ogun State for killing his 16-year-old step-daughter, Amudat Oshimodi, and selling her head to his son, Seun, a herbalist, who allegedly paid N3,000 as first instalment.

Just a week ago, a Muslim cleric, Kazeem Alimson, was arrested at the White Sand area of Isheri-Oshun, Ejigbo, Lagos, for killing a three-year-old boy, Chiagozie Okereke.

After he was arrested, he made the shocking confession that he paid a teenager N500 to lure the toddler and killed the child with a heavy stone.

But some actions that have repulsed Nigerians in recent times are not only about deaths.

In December, a 25-year-old woman, Ali Odinaka, was arrested by the National Agency for the Prohibition of Trafficking in Persons, in Ebonyi State for allegedly trying to sell her three children.

Odinaka, who hails from Ezilo, in Ishielu Local Government of Area of the state was reportedly arrested by the police after a tip-off from a waitress whom she had contacted to look for a trafficker who could buy her children.

Just a week ago, a 50-year-old grandmother, Rita Eze, who was a member of an inter-state child-snatching syndicate, was arrested.

She confessed that she abducted a three-year-old girl from Lagos and sold her in Anambra State so that she could use the proceeds to pay her rent.

All these have roots in the “darkness” of the present time, says, psychologist, Abbey Shobayo.

“At moments like this, it is not strange to have people shooting above their frustration limit by even taking to acts of violence. Without addressing the social factors responsible, it will be tough getting to the root of the rising cases of murders we have seen,” he said.

Apart from these violent and negative actions mentioned earlier, the “unhappiness” in the land manifests in more subtle ways. On the streets of Lagos for instance, road rages seem to be on the rise.

For instance, Mr. Victor Ajayi, an accountant with a Lagos State Government agency, shared his experience with a motorist.

He said, “Five days ago, I was about to make the turn from Agidingbi Road to Obafemi Awolowo Way towards Ikeja, when I overtook a car that was too slow for me.

“The young man in the vehicle sped till he caught up and blocked me. I was initially afraid that he was a robber but I realised he was angry because I overtook him.

“Before I could explain that I had a right to overtake so far as I did not do it dangerously, he did not listen. He kept screaming that he would slap me.

“I was so confused. I realised it was as if he was frustrated and just needed someone on whom to let loose. I quickly stopped arguing with him and simply kept quiet. He left and drove away when he realised I did not take him up. I have noticed this has become common in Lagos now. Tempers flare on the road at the slightest provocation.”

According to the Lagos Commander of the Federal Road Safety Corps, Mr. Hyginus Omeje, managing road rages requires taking into cognisance that it is a psychological issue.

He said, “There is no special provision in managing the issues of road rage. What applies under normal enforcement is that a lot of psychology is needed in dealing with such person.

“If you speak with such person, he can even start removing his clothes or become physical when you try to impound his vehicle. Issuing a ticket would not even solve the problem. Dealing with people who exhibit road rage requires a lot of care.”

Do you know anyone who is exhibiting suicidal tendencies or showing signs of depression? Save a life today, call the Suicide Hotlines: +2348062106493, or +2348092106493


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Best Sex Positions When Your Wife Is Nursing A Baby |The Republican News


For first-time parents, it may sometimes be very difficult to resume sex after child delivery.

Indeed, many women hardly think of sex when they start nursing a newborn! And the situation may get out of hand if, after a month or thereabouts, a man still can’t gain access to his spouse’s body!

For many new parents, sex can suddenly become clumsy, especially when sex has to be suspended midway into the game because baby needs attention!

However, sexologists say this need not be, as there are fun-filled sex positions that couples can assume, even when baby still wants to take a shot at breast-sucking!

What are these positions? These ones…

Rear entry: This style is very encouraging for the couple because, even if the baby has to be pacified with breast while daddy is… er… busy with mom, it won’t stop anything! Experts assure that this position not only accesses the G-spot and the A-spot to create squirting orgasms, but it’s also comfortable for the new mom if she must keep an eye on a squirming baby! For this position, woman can lie on her side with one leg slightly raised to make for penetration from behind. This position requires little work on her side, but it feels amazing because her legs are placed closely together which creates a tighter entry for him and increases sensation for her.

Reach for the sky: This is an improvement on doggy position, and it still requires rear entry. In this position, the woman crouches on all four, low enough for the baby to have access to her breast if need be. The man gets up on his feet and stands up, leaning over her. Hubby will get somewhat of a less intense thrust than regular doggy style, but in return wife will have more sensation. The leaning forward actually lets the man get a somewhat deeper feel, which is as stimulating for the new mom too.

Spooning: This is one of the cuddliest of the sex positions, but that doesn’t mean you can’t make it intense. You lie on your side, with your partner in front of you, facing the baby. Enter her from behind, and then both of you can control the pace and depth of thrusting. The position is comfortable, for longer sex sessions with a lot of sensual touching and kissing of the back of the neck. You can also get quite handsy and reach around to play with her nipples or even reach down and add extra stimulation to her clitoris from the front.

The T-position: For this position, have her start off by lying on her back, while you lie on your side, and penetrate her from the side. Once you’re inside her, you control the pace and depth of the thrusting. This position allows you to shake things up. Additionally, because often, men’s penises are taller than they are wide, this means that by effectively turning your penis sideways, you can better target her clitoris.   (


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Good Sleep, Regular Sex Affect Your Skin |The Republican News


It seems safe to assume that a beautiful, sparkling skin is everybody’s delight, given the much attention people pay to the maintenance of their skin. Not only is it a good indication of a healthy living, some people also flaunt it as a thing of pride.

It is common to see people buy expensive body creams, while some mix like two or three, for a better result, and the more expensive the creams are, the better for them. For some, the kind of food they eat and the weather they are exposed to play a major role. Perhaps, all these are fantastic ways of nurturing the skin.

But it is equally interesting to note that beyond following these fashion rules, basic things like sleep and the volume of sugar intake make a lot of difference in skin’s outlook. And for people who are married, good and regular sex make a lot of difference too.

Starting with sleep, which is an activity that is engaged in by every living being, at different proportions though, studies have shown clearly that inadequate sleep is a precursor for ageing skin. In other words, the quality of a person’s sleep influences the person’s skin functions, rate of ageing and facial appearance.

A study led by a dermatologist, Prof. Elma Baron, who is the Director of the Skin Study Centre at UH Case Medical Centre, United States, shows that the quality of sleep is crucial to the growth and renewal of the body’s immune and physiological systems, thus, it has an impact on skin function and appearance. The result of the study was posted on Science Daily.

In the study, titled ‘Effects of sleep quality on skin ageing and function, she explained that the skin protects the internal system from external “stressors like toxins and sun-induced DNA damage,” thus, it plays a crucial role in the overall well-being of people because it is like the shield for the internal organs.

Baron said, “Our study is the first to conclusively demonstrate that inadequate sleep is correlated with reduced skin health and accelerates skin ageing. Insufficient sleep has become a worldwide epidemic. While chronic sleep deprivation has been linked to medical problems such as obesity, diabetes, cancer and immune deficiency, its effects on skin function have previously been unknown.”

Half of the 60 women involved in the study were in the poor quality sleep category while the other half were in the good quality sleep category. The researchers used the average duration of sleep, the Pittsburgh Sleep Quality Index, questionnaire given to the participants to fill their weekly duration of sleep, visual skin assessment and some other tests, including ultraviolet skin exposure, to assess the difference between those who had good quality sleep and those who had poor quality sleep.

At the end of the study, the researchers found that women who had poor quality sleep showed signs of “premature skin ageing and a decrease in their skin’s ability to recover after sun exposure.”

Baron added, “Using the SCINEXA skin ageing scoring system, poor quality sleepers showed increased signs of intrinsic skin ageing including fine lines, uneven pigmentation and slackening of skin and reduced elasticity. In this system, a higher score means a more aged appearance. The average score in the good quality sleepers was 2.2 versus 4.4 in poor quality sleepers.”

Apart from the fact that people who had good quality sleep recorded better self perception of attractiveness and a more effective barrier against moisture loss than those who had poor quality sleep, the study also showed that people who had good quality sleep tend to recover faster (30 per cent) and “more efficiently” from sunburn (reddening, inflammation, and, in severe cases, blistering and peeling of the skin caused by overexposure to the ultraviolet rays of the sun) and other stressors to the skin than those who had poor quality skin (14 per cent).

“This research shows for the first time, that poor sleep quality can accelerate signs of skin ageing and weaken the skin’s ability to repair itself at night,” another researcher, Dr. Daniel Yarosh, added.

This implies that people who crave good skin should ensure they have better sleep.

Meanwhile, findings have also shown that beyond the havoc excessive sugar intake does to the waist and the heart, it also takes its toll on the skin, as it has been found to speed up skin ageing. Sugar in this case includes sweet and sugary drinks, snacks and food items. Impliedly, paying close attention to one’s diet is crucial to having a healthy skin.

A nutritionist, Sarah West, in her post on Mail Online, said excessive consumption of sugar could affect the quality of the skin by facilitating the degradation of elastin and collagen; the two important proteins that help the skin to stay smooth and wrinkle-free.

She said, “When sugar enters the body, it causes a spike in insulin levels, which causes inflammation below the skin. This process can weaken collagen and elastin and accelerate the ageing of the skin – leaving it less supple and more prone to wrinkles.

“So forget the expensive lotions and potions: one of the easiest and cheapest ways to turn back the clock is to cut down on the amount of sugar in your diet.”

Some other experts and nutritionists also agree that high sugar intake and exposure to ultraviolet light could speed up ageing.

While these measures are very useful for all, married couples seem to have an advantage, and that is in terms of sex. Studies have shown that sex has many health benefits, including its ability to boost the immune system, lower blood pressure and risk of heart attack, reduce the likelihood of prostate cancer in men and a good form of exercise.

But beyond these, scientists have found that sex can make people look younger. A British clinical neuropsychologist, Dr. David Weeks, said one of the good and effective ways for married couples to have sparkling skin and youthful look is for them to have sex at least thrice a week, saying that would boost their blood circulation and slow down ageing, among other benefits.

He said, “Sex is an excellent aerobic exercise that promotes skin renewal because it raises the heart beat and pumps oxygen around the body which improves the immune system, boosts circulation and keeps you lean. And the pleasure from the act is a crucial factor in preserving youthfulness.”

In his post on Mail Online, he said people who have casual sex or those who are promiscuous may not enjoy this benefit that comes with sex because healthy sexual relationship combines physical and psychological ties, and that loyalty is part and parcel of a fulfilling sex life.

It has also been found that the estrogen released from the activity increases the elasticity of the skin and reduces skin dryness.

A dermatologist and psychiatrist, Dr. Amy Wechsler, in her own view, said, “We are constantly damaging and repairing our skin and you want to tip the scale more towards repair. When you have sex, you are bathing the skin in anti-inflammatory molecules such as oxytocin and beta endorphins. As we get older, we don’t heal as often as we repair. But having sex can turn the clock back on that.”    (

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Nine Signs Your Woman Is Getting Extra Sex Somewhere |The Republican News


Well, rightly or wrongly, sex experts say the following are the signs to watch for if you’re suspecting that your woman is having sex with some other man!

• She rebuffs your advances. When a woman has just had sex with someone, she is likely to rebuff your sexual advances if you approach her for sex!

• She smells rather funny. Well, if she rushed out of the place where she had the extra sex without taking a shower, you may likely smell the ejaculate on her!

• She rushes to take her bath. If your woman dashes into the bathroom to clean up herself after an outing, there might be more to it!

• That ‘knowing smile’. A woman who has just had sex with another man would likely have this ‘knowing’ smile plastered her on her face, perhaps because she wants to cover up her guilt.

• Avoiding eye contacts. A cheating woman would find it difficult to maintain eye contact with you if she has been seeing another man.

• Crumpled attire. This is more of a teenage thing, but an adult woman may have her clothes crumpled if she had just had a quickie and hadn’t taken off her top before she did!

Unprovoked angry outbursts. If you ask where she has been, she may accuse you of tele-guiding her or that you don’t trust her, blah, blah…

• Smudged make-up. If she had her make-up smudged all over, it may be an indication that someone had been there ahead of you!

• Fresh make-up, fresh perfume. In the alternative, a freshly-applied make-up and recently-sprayed perfume might be an indication that she has taken time to freshen up after a roll in the hay!

The bottom line: You may not necessarily take this as gospel truth, because you may not be right, after all.   (

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Why You Should Always Shower Before Going To Bed |The Republican News


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At this point, we’re pretty sure if someone paid us to stand under a jet of hot water all day and think about its health benefits, we’d forego the money and do it for free. Studies have already shown that showers can awaken your mind and boost creativity, but research is supporting the idea that a hot shower before bed can also help you fall asleep. Dr. Dianna Augelli of the Center for Sleep Medicine at NewYork-Presbyterian/Weill Cornell Medical Center has applied studies that support pre-bedtime baths to showering habits as well. There’s some finesse to it, but the bottom line is: Hop in the shower before bed. It’ll help your body cool down and relax.

Key to the whole game is timing. “You don’t want to heat yourself up right before bed,” Dr. Augelli told TIME Health. “Cooling down is a signal that tells us we’re supposed to go to sleep.”

The optimal timing? Ninety minutes before you want to hit the hay. By then, your body can regulate its circadian rhythms—essentially the signals that tell it when to feel alert and when to feel sleepy. Right after the shower, you’ll heat up and feel more alert and active and possibly creative, but as time passes and you begin the cool-down process, your system will feel more primed for rest instead of still feeling warmer and antsier. Plus, you’ll be dry after 90 minutes—no damp pillow.                    (Prevention)

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If You Suffer From Premature Ejaculation, It Is Your Father’s Fault


While the time that good sex must last has been a hot topic for debate, what cannot be denied is that, during sex, the fun can be totally ruined when a man ‘comes’ too early!

Naturally, ejaculation is the eventual culmination of sexual arousal, and normally occurs with orgasm. Experts say it is induced by nerve stimulation, resulting in the expulsion of semen from the outer urethral orifice.

Premature ejaculation refers to the persistent or recurrent discharge of semen with minimal sexual stimulation before, on, or shortly after penetration.

However, researchers say that it may be an inherited trait, and that it could be inherited through the passing of genes.

Experts at online portals, Mayo Clinic and prematurex, explain, “We can blame your gene if your premature ejaculation is actually caused by hormonal imbalances that release what is known as dopamine.

“Dopamine has to do with different processes in the mind such as walking, but it also regulates how your mind perceives pleasure and ‘reward.’

“You can think of dopamine in this aspect as the pleasure threshold, and when too much is released, it causes excitement; with the end result being premature ejaculation yet again in the bedroom, and a displeased partner as well.”

This hormone release is possibly inherited, but it is hard to know unless you have a discussion with your family.

Physicians agree that the exact cause of premature ejaculation isn’t known. While it was once thought to be only psychological, doctors now know that premature ejaculation is more complicated and involves a complex interaction of psychological and biological factors.

Psychological causes

Some doctors believe that early sexual experiences may establish a pattern that can be difficult to change later in life, such as:

• Situations in which you may have hurried to reach climax in order to avoid being discovered.

• Guilty feelings that increase your tendency to rush through sexual encounters.

Other factors that can play a role in causing premature ejaculation include:

• Erectile dysfunction. Men who are anxious about obtaining or maintaining an erection during sexual intercourse may form a pattern of rushing to ejaculate, which can be difficult to change.

• Anxiety. Many men with premature ejaculation also have problems with anxiety — either specifically about sexual performance or related to other issues.

• Relationship problems. If you have had satisfying sexual relationships with other partners in which premature ejaculation happened infrequently or not at all, it’s possible that interpersonal issues between you and your current partner are contributing to the problem.

Biological causes

Several biological factors may contribute to premature ejaculation, including:

• Abnormal hormone levels.

• Abnormal levels of brain chemicals called neurotransmitters.

• Abnormal reflex activity of the ejaculatory system.

• Certain thyroid problems.

• Inflammation and infection of the prostate or urethra.

• Inherited traits.

• Nerve damage from surgery or trauma (rare).

The bottom line: If you suffer from premature ejaculation, see your doctor. There are prescriptions out there available for you to use.            (

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Six Sex Positions Most Women Hate



Some men are addicted to pornographic movies, learn so much from them and then expect their women to replicate what they see when they want to have sex in real life.

Well, women are saying that inasmuch as they don’t mind creativity or adventure in bed, certain positions are simply a no-no. And they have their reasons!

What are these positions? These ones…

69: This is a position that is only meant for oral sex. Here, both of you lie down like 6 and 9, with each person’s head close to their partner’s genital. Got the picture? As much as it looks hot in movie, the average woman hates it. It’s better you discuss this with your woman to see if she’s into it.

Standing up: Well, the question is, how easy is it to sustain an erection while bearing your woman’s entire body weight on your waist? Beyond this, men should realise that with this position, they cannot hit any of the correct angles a woman needs to get off. So, why bother?

Related: What A Woman’s Favourite Sex Position Says About Her |The Republican News

In the shower: In addition to the inconveniencies of stand-up sex, water is an anti-lubricant and it’s capable of getting in the way.

The oil driller: Here, the woman has her legs hoisted up in the air while the man hammers down as if he’s drilling for oil. This does absolutely nothing for the woman except remind her how much she values oxygen when her chin is smashed to her chest and you’re happily masturbating with her vagina.

Reverse cowgirl: Here, you lay back, hands propped behind your head, having a glorious view of a lady’s rear while she services you. Sometimes, it’s too much work for the woman, as she may find it difficult to keep your penis inside her!

Related: What A Man’s Favourite Sex Position Says About Him |The Republican News

Legs behind the head: As much as you may think we enjoy being folded like a meat pie and bounced on, it’s not a desirable sex position at all. It doesn’t allow for much clitoral stimulation, and it’s exceedingly uncomfortable.

The bottom line: Know your woman’s sexual preference.


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